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Making a Difference in the Lives of Others
Our God-given desires include our longing to contribute to the lives of others, those we care about as well as those we’ve never met. The most common expression of this is our desire to impact the lives of our children in a long-term and permanent way. We want to influence not only their immediate decisions, but also their decision-making process. We hope that even when we are gone, our children will reflect on what they’ve learned from us and respond accordingly. We see it in familiar phrases. “Your mother taught you well…” “You sure make your parents proud…””The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree…””You’re a chip off the old block…””I can see you were raised well.”
W also have a drive to make a difference with friends and co-workers. As we get to know them better, the Lord begins to reveal to us His heart for them. The fellow sitting at the next desk becomes a child of God in our eyes. The neighbor across the street grows dear to us and we think, “What can I do to bless her life?” Once we taste God’s love, we become zealous to impart it to others. We are not content to explore the vastness of God’s love alone. As we grow in the Lord, we feel compelled to impact more people than just those close to us. We begin to pray for the waitress who serves us, we begin to prophesy to the stranger in the grocery store. We find ourselves unwilling to go through life self-contained-we must make an impact.
All of this is part of the grand plan of God to impart His heart to us. He gives us these desires with the expressed intent of partnering with us. Given the choice of doing it with us or without us, He makes it clear that His perfect plan includes our imperfect cooperation. He doesn’t need our participation, He wants it.
The Longing to Make a Deep and Lasting Impact
“San Francisco artist David Best is known for building intricate monuments from delicately cut sheets of plywood. Often reaching fifty feet tall, they feature turrets, spindles and railings. These edifices are built in memory of people who have passed away. He leaves a stack of magic markers in the structures and encourages people to write messages about their deceased loved ones. The messages are a mix of profundity and pain. One message was a mix of both. Scrawled in green letters eight inches tall, it read: “Dad, what did your life mean?”
There was no story written alongside the question, so we can only imagine the circumstances driving someone to ask it. Whether the father in question was a good one or not is beside the point. The inference is this:” Dad, I watched you closely and cannot determine the impact you had. It would appear that even from a child’s point of view, your life meant…nothing.” Tragically, at the end of a parent’s life, a child looked at his life story and could not perceive an obvious long-term impact on the world, for good or bad. Asked in a moment of private vulnerability, that simple question reveals a longing that exists in every human heart. It is an attempt to reconcile the temporal nature of this life with the eternal nature of the next one.
We were created to do that which is relevant and significant. God designed us to desperately want to make a difference in the lives of others. We need to know we are making a contribution that is significant to God and one He esteems and remembers forever. Being sure we are impacting people now, while at the same time achieving eternal reward in Heaven, satisfies this longing. A life of meaning involves living in a way that contributes to the enrichment of others in this life and in the age to come. Working together with Jesus to awaken other hearts in love is essential to our emotional health.
I have no greater joy than to hear that my children 2walk in truth. (3 John 4)
The longing to make a relevant impact includes the longing for the heroic. By heroic, I mean being willing to risk losing everything so others can experience something significant and life-changing. We long to share things with others that change them or bring them joy and goodness; for example, when we receive great news about something and can’t wait to tell the ones we love. When a five-year-old boy finds out his brother is getting a brand new bicycle for Christmas, he just has to tell the secret to see the brother explode with joy. We love being a part of that which exhilarates the people we love. When a woman wins the lottery, she will phone her family immediately to celebrate with them. When a terminal cancer patient receives some breakthrough medical cure, he can not contain himself from telling the other patients in the cancer ward The desire to exhilarate others with good news is fundamental to our humanity.” (Bickle, pp 133-135)
Excerpted from Mike Bickle (2006), The Seven Longings of the Human Heart: Kansas City, MO.